Free resources

Take some of the work home.

A few things we wrote because we got tired of explaining them in session every week. Free, no email required (though we'd love it).

Downloadable guides

Six PDFs we keep handing to clients.

Each is short — twelve to twenty pages — meant to be read with your partner over coffee.

14 pages · PDF
Premarital
21 questions to ask before you marry
Your Business Press · 2026

21 questions before you marry

The unsexy ones. Money, in-laws, what fidelity actually means to each of you, what you'd do if one of you stopped wanting kids.

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18 pages · PDF
Conflict
Fighting fair
Your Business Press · 2026

Fighting fair

The Gottman "Four Horsemen" in plain English, with antidotes you can actually deploy in the middle of a Tuesday-night fight.

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22 pages · PDF
Repair
After the affair
Your Business Press · 2026

After the affair

The first 30 days. What to do, what not to ask, what to read, when to call a therapist. Written by Maya — our affair-recovery lead.

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12 pages · PDF
Parenting
When your teen stops talking
Your Business Press · 2026

When your teen stops talking

Six things to try, three things to stop doing, and how to tell the difference between a phase and something that needs a clinician.

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16 pages · PDF
Connection
The weekly state-of-the-union
Your Business Press · 2026

The weekly state-of-the-union

A 30-minute weekly ritual we recommend to almost every couple we see. Five questions, two structured turns, one repair.

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20 pages · PDF
Blended families
Two homes, one nervous system
Your Business Press · 2026

Two homes, one nervous system

For separated parents trying to run consistent households. Communication scripts, holiday calendars, what kids actually need to hear.

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What we recommend

Six books we'd tell any couple to read.

The short list. We've actually read these. Some are clinical, some are not.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

— John Gottman, PhD
If you read one couples book ever, read this one. The research-backed playbook, written for non-clinicians. We assign it to almost every new couple.
Hold Me Tight — Sue Johnson

Hold Me Tight

— Sue Johnson, EdD
The EFT bible for laypeople. Seven conversations every couple needs to have. Especially good for couples who feel emotionally distant rather than actively in conflict.
Mating in Captivity — Esther Perel

Mating in Captivity

— Esther Perel, LMFT
On erotic life inside long relationships. Provocative, sharp, sometimes uncomfortable. Read it as a conversation-starter rather than a how-to.
No Bad Parts — Richard Schwartz

No Bad Parts

— Richard Schwartz, PhD
An IFS introduction for the general reader. Useful especially when one or both partners are bringing childhood patterns into adult arguments.
After the Affair — Janis Spring

After the Affair

— Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD
The infidelity book we hand most often. Honest about the work involved on both sides. We use it alongside the Gottman protocol in affair-recovery cases.
Fair Play — Eve Rodsky

Fair Play

— Eve Rodsky, JD
For couples in the household-labor fight. A card-based system for actually re-distributing the invisible work. We've watched it transform marriages.

Get one short essay each Sunday.

Maya writes a brief Sunday letter — practical, never preachy. About 1,200 words. About 80% of the team writes occasionally too.

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